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This military, we are remembering these stories, told to us by a brave group of kids at the White House not long ago—just a snapshot of the 2.3 million kids who are the children of our nation’s wounded, ill, or injured service members and veterans.
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These “hidden helpers,” who often carry adult-sized worries and responsibilities, are a critical piece of the support system that cares for those who return home with visible and invisible wounds of war. Yet, their service and their sacrifice often go unseen.
That’s why the Elizabeth Dole Foundation commissioned the first in-depth analysis of children helping care for an injured loved one. In this research, experts found that families dealing with wounds and illnesses experience frequent disruptions in their lives. This causes high levels of stress in children, severely impacting their development and creating health problems, like anxiety, depression, burnout, fatigue, and social isolation.
Caregiver kids are strong. They meet the challenges of their lives with courage and resilience—but they are still kids. They, and their families, shouldn’t have to carry the weight of this responsibility alone.
Despite their resilience, America should not lean on our youngest citizens to bear so much of the weight of wounded veterans’ care. That’s our nation’s responsibility.
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Our service members answer the call to defend America, sometimes at enormous personal costs. When they return home wounded, a loved one steps in to care for them—with 5.5 million Americans serving as military and veteran caregivers. We owe these families a reprieve.
Remarkably, just like their parents, hidden helpers find strength not only to carry on, but to provide a helping hand. Young people assist their parents with cooking, cleaning, and maintaining the household. Some have received training on what to do in an emergency. Older kids take on parental roles and act as assistant nurses and chauffeurs, while younger kids often find their role as comforters and entertainers when times are tough.
Joining Forces has partnered with the Hidden Helpers Coalition, co-chaired by the Elizabeth Dole Foundation and Wounded Warrior Project®, to announce that more than 70 organizations have already generated over 40 commitments to address the study’s findings—an unprecedented response from all sectors of society.
We are committed to investing in new and expanded programs; identifying how the government can better support caregiver families; making clinical settings more kid-friendly; offering greater respite, relief, and emergency financial support to struggling families; and creating training materials for practitioners who interact with caregiver kids.
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When Gabby spoke at our event, she also told us about her jobs at home. She cooks pancakes on Sundays. She answers her little sister, Ava, when she asks “How’s the weather?”—code for asking about their dad’s mood. But most of all, she says her job is to “give love and bring light to my dad’s day.”
Caregiver kids are strong. They meet the challenges of their lives with courage and resilience—but they are still kids. They, and their families, shouldn’t have to carry the weight of this responsibility alone.
All of us have a role to play in bringing these hidden helpers out of the shadows, and ensuring that their service and sacrifice are seen and supported. We must have their backs—so that kids like Gabby and Ava can shine with all the love and light they have.
Senator Elizabeth Dole is a former U.S. Senator of North Carolina, two-time member of the Presidential Cabinet, President of the American Red Cross, and founder of the Elizabeth Dole Foundation.
